Are you feeling lonely in the lead up to Valentine’s Day? Well no problem, as we’re here to help.
There are few holidays that make us feel more lonely or want a partner more than Christmas and Valentine’s Day. That’s why it’s just so great that they are close together (not).
If you are one of those people reflecting on your single status in the run-up to Valentine’s Day, have no fear, as we are here to help.
Want to meet that soulmate but not sure how? No problem! There’s plenty of ways to meet new people and find that perfect partner. Below are a few suggestions to help you get started on your path to true love.
1. Embrace technology
There have been many advances in technology and social media over the years, which has made connecting with people easier. Nowadays there are many apps and sites where people can connect with others and try their hand at dating.
For some, these sites may only be used for conversations, as they work on their confidence and conversation skills. For others, these apps and sites lead to meetups, relationships and hookups.
One of the greatest things about them is that they are easy to use, connect you to many more people than you might otherwise meet and are usually free. Additionally, you can be honest about your motives, personality, interests and ideal type, making the process of finding the perfect partner much easier.
Perhaps the most popular dating app is Tinder, while there are many dating sites such as eHarmony, OKCupid, Match.com and PlentyOfFish.
2. Be social
This might sound obvious, however, it is still one of the harder things to do.
It is always best to go out and be social, whether that’s through clubs and activities, volunteering, work or partying. It’s unlikely you’ll meet someone by hiding away at home, so stepping out of your comfort zone is a pretty important step to meeting someone.
While an important way to improve social skills and increase the chance of meeting a prospective partner, it can be a very hard thing to do. It’s almost never pleasant to put yourself out there or risk embarrassment by approaching people. Additionally, while socialising might be easy for those who are confident, many fall into the other category and struggle when surrounded by strangers or people they don’t know well.
In circumstances like this, it can be difficult to even come up with conversation, let alone flirt. As such, it’s very tempting to stay at home. Unfortunately, there is no easy answer to this, as it really is one of those situations where you just have to push through the initial awkwardness and hope for the best.
Take comfort in the knowledge you’re likely not the only one feeling uncomfortable and work your way up to starting conversations with new people. We promise it will be worth it.
3. Make a little effort
Male or female, everyone appreciates when you try and look nice. We don’t mean wear super uncomfortable clothing, cover your face with make-up or go on a diet, but it never hurts to try and put some effort into your appearance.
That might mean regularly getting a haircut, styling it with some product, wearing some more fashionable or colourful clothing or putting on some jewellery. It doesn’t have to be a whole clothes overhaul, but try and shake things up a bit and stand out more.
Baby might have been able to get the guy while hiding in the corner, but it’s likely you’ll have to try a little harder to get your happy ending.
Similarly, listen to what your potential partner is saying. If they are a fan of a certain band or want to try a new restaurant why not surprise them with tickets or a reservation? If you know they’ve had a bad day get them something little, even just chocolates, to cheer them up.
Take them out for their favourite dish, offer them a compliment or suggest watching their favourite film. It doesn’t have to be much, just showing them you’re interested and willing to make an effort will go a long way.
4. Be honest
There is no point wasting someone’s time, your own included. As such, if you are flirting with someone or in a relationship with someone and it’s just not working anymore, be honest. If you aren’t interested in that person, or the chemistry you initially felt has dwindled, it’s always better to say so rather than let the situation escalate.
Of course, you don’t want to be rude, so it’s important to be kind when letting them know, however it will be much more hurtful to them later if you drag things out. All the while you are with someone you either don’t like or only like a bit, you are unable to meet someone with whom you could have a successful relationship. What’s more, the person you’re with is also unable to find that special someone.
It’s never easy to break up with someone, especially when they haven’t done anything wrong, but it is undoubtedly kinder in the long run. You only have one life, so why waste it on people or relationships that don’t actually make you happy?