In this day and age, swiping left or right is how we get dates and go about finding our life partner; but with this brings a whole new gamut of dating etiquette.
9Honey talks to Channel Nine’s Date Night star, Faryn to get all the do’s and don’ts of online dating.
Despite being an old-fashioned girl at heart, Faryn admits that she just needed to bite the bullet and step outside of her comfort zone.
“I don’t go out as much socially because we’re all working full time and we’re all tired – whereas when you’re younger you’re going out a lot more,” she says.
Here are Faryn’s top online dating tips:
Focus on photos
The biggest thing about online dating is when you go and meet someone, how many horror stories do you hear about people not looking like their photos? Include honest photos that show your personality as well as what you look like. For example, I have one with my dog because I love my dog and he’s a huge part of my life and if you don’t like my dog then I’m probably not going to like you. I’ve learnt to just show who you are – there’s no point in having a photo (particularly girls) if you’re all dressed up in heels and a tight dress on Saturday night, because you don’t look like that 24/7. Also, don’t wear sunglasses – people want to see what you look like.
Faryn’s message to a potential date. (Image: Channel Nine/supplied)
Reveal a bit about yourself
Make the effort to include a bio; if you can’t be bothered to write a bio, you probably can’t be bothered to do anything for your partner. But, don’t go too deep – essays about wanting to find love are not needed. Just give the basics such as, what you do and hobbies keeping it short, simple and funny.
Making the first move
Going into this I was so against sending the first message, but now I realise we’re both here for the same reason so why can’t I make the first move. I aim for the opening message to be something funny to break the ice. I think, ‘Hey, how are you?’ is so boring so one that I use a lot is: ‘do you keep your tomato sauce in the fridge or the cupboard?’ Also, don’t wait to be asked on a date. I’d prefer to be asked out but if I get a feeling that they are nervous, I’ll step in.
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Go in with caution and don’t put all your personal information out there for anyone to get access to. I don’t have my Instagram or Facebook linked to my dating profiles because it’s too easy for people to get your phone number or message you on Instagram; you can’t be too careful.
Remember your manners
I’ve had some shocking dates where I have been thinking about leaving but I will always see it out. After the date I will let it naturally fizzle out, but I can’t be rude.
Kerrin, Faryn and Laura looking for a perfect match. (Image: Channel Nine/supplied)
Confidence is key
Put yourself out there as much as possible. I went into this very closed minded but have come round and am now more open. Just roll with the punches because you’re going to have some bad dates but you’re also going to have some good ones.
Catch Faryn on Date Night, Tuesday’s 9.00pm, Channel Nine